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Birth mothers are the
heros of adoption.
They are the
ones that make adoption possible.
This month
tell them how much their choices, actions, and sacrifices have meant and do mean to you. Tell them that you know they will
never forget, and neither will you.
Gina, birth mother to her 9 year old
"Butterfly" has provided us with the perfect way to do just that. Gina is the force behind
a charity that creates baskets that new birth mothers can carry with them as they leave the hospital- she does not want them to walk out with empty arms.
"The Birth Mother Baskets {bmb} actually started as a small service project for me to do for Christmas in 2002. I wanted to show support to other birth mothers and let them know it’s ok to talk about your placement, to be proud of your decision. I wanted something that the birth mothers could take home with them, after placement. I didn’t want them to go home with empty arms. That’s when I thought of a gift basket full of items, just for the birth mother, to show her she is not alone. I took ALL the resources I had at that time (which wasn’t much). I then called around to every local business that I thought might donate. My small goal of filling 20 baskets became 60 and I was thrilled with the response. I then distributed them to local hospitals and social services to give to each birth mother.
With such a great outpouring, by those around me, I was able to continue filling baskets for about four years! Some of these donations came from businesses, friends or speaking engagements that I have done here locally. In those four years, I have successfully filled over 300 baskets!!"
As a friend became a birth mother, she introduced me to adoption and started my journey to working in adoption and supporting other expectant mothers.
ReplyDeletewow - what a perfect project. I would love to get one for my daughter's birthmother.
ReplyDeleteThis is such an amazing project. I hated the fact that I had to walk out of the hospital empty handed. A basket would have been nice. The overwhelming feeling of being utterly alone isn't a good one. Thank you for what you are doing for other birth moms!
ReplyDelete1. as a birthmother i have met numerous others thru outreach and support groups, each is unique beautiful and full of love for her birthchild. i got to watch my then roommate give birth to her son and 2 days later place him in the arms of his forever parents. what an experience!
ReplyDelete2. i facebooked about this giveaway on my personal profile and my adoption group page! http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=82019623067
3. i blogged about it here: http://birthmothers4adoption.blogspot.com/2009/11/how-can-i-help-support-birthmother.html
This post, and Gina's story, made me cry and cry. Tears of joy, sadness, appreciation, and empathy. As a mother, I could not even fathom the heartbreak of leaving the hospital empty-handed, no matter the circumstances. What a kind and wonderful way to celebrate the strength and soothe the loss of placing your child up for adoption.
ReplyDeleteI had a friend who gave her daughter up for adoption. I remember admiring the strength and love that it took for her to make that decision. I can't imagine what it would be like to grow a life inside of you and then leave the hospital empty-handed. This is such a great cause. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great way to raise awareness! If it weren't for birth mothers, we wouldn't have our lovely niece in my family. She is the oldest grandchild on my husband's side. After trying for over 9 years, she helped make my sister in law a mother.
ReplyDeleteAnd I tweeted about this giveaway!
ReplyDeleteAnd I just put it on Facebook!
ReplyDeletemy cousin gave up her baby for adoption, and I thought of her minutes after giving birth to my own daughter. I was (and am) simply amazed by her strength and goodness in giving up her baby.
ReplyDeleteI think this is a great way to get the word out. We continue to keep you and Ali in our prayers. I'd love to be entered in the contest.
ReplyDeletemuch love.
I love you, am I exempt from the contest?
ReplyDeleteNo Princess, you are not exempt, and I love you too.
ReplyDeleteI had the opportunity two months ago to meet my own Birth Grandmother (my Mother's Birth Mother) for the first time. It has been wonderful to meet and get to know such an amazing woman and to better understand what she did for my mother-and by extension me.
ReplyDeleteAll of my grandmothers have been remarkable and amazing women, each in their own right. I have loved been able to better understand one more piece of where I came from and how it has shaped me, my mother, and my family.
What a wonderful organization. I am going to purchase a little word bird for each of the teachers at my yoga studio (www.mlcyoga.com). What a great way to show my appreciation for them, while also showing my appreciation for birth moms!
ReplyDeleteThank you for giving us this opportunity to show our support!
I'm so grateful to the TWO wonderful birth mothers who gave up their sons for my friend Andrea to raise. It has meant the world to her and her husband to have both sweet boys in their lives.
ReplyDeleteA good friend of mine lost a child to still birth and wasn't able to get pregnant again. It caused a lot of heartach and pain for her. In the past year she has adopted a little boy and her life seems more complete. She is much happier and it is all thanks to a young birth mother.
ReplyDeleteI also twittered!
ReplyDeleteemail: layla12@gmail.com
As a birthmother for over a quarter of a century and after listening to many other birthmtoher’s discussing the long term affects of adoption, I have also put together a list of the perfect adoption gifts that can go into a basket: http://www.adoptionbirthmothers.com/adoption-gift-ideas-the-perfect-birthmother-gift-basket/ They are more on the snarky side, but many in the community do agree, it’s way more realistic.
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