During our adoption journey I have struggled with the pain that birth mothers must go through in order for adoption to work, and frankly in order for me to experience the incredible joy of motherhood. That is very hard for me.
I have sought out ways to support these incredible women.
Now that I have a personal relationship with the birth mother of our child (whom is scheduled to make his appearance in the next week or so. . . WOW!) I have felt this heaviness with even more poignancy.
It is the truth that no matter my level of empathy I will never truly understand the sacrifice that these women make for their children, for our children. The best that I can do is support and love them in any way I can think of. . . and encourage others to do the same.
I am so blessed to be surrounded with a group of amazing women. My sister, mother, mother-in-law and friends came together in a loving, fun, and compassionate display of what that support can look like.
I present. . . A BIRTH MOTHER SHOWER IN A BOX
Each of these amazing 15 women prepared a small handmade or hand selected gift meant to pamper and offer support to the woman who will deliver our miracle. The purpose was to let her know that she has emotional and spiritual support in places she probably hadn't considered and that her choice reaches far beyond the blessings our family will inherit from her.
My friends and family were so willing and excited to do this and many of them sent notes expressing their feelings to our birth mom to-be.
M. loved it.
What other ways have you found to love and support yours (or someonelse's) child's birth mom?
If adoption is a part of your life in any way: birth parent, adoptive parent, hopeful adoptive parent, adoption advocate or professional and would like your blog or website added to my list of links please email me your name and URL. adoptionfyi at gmail dot com